Registered: Dec 2002
Location: Oh so very secret
Originally posted by Insp_Gadget
"Welcome to the Internet" should be addressed to him.
Hey, man -- everyone is welcome on the Internet.
It's true that meyerweb was a bit snide in his response to your post (hi meyerweb, how's it going?) but your response was a little hot, too. You might want to think about just telling people they're jerks when they're being jerks, rather than getting yourself worked up. Try this: meyerweb, you're a jerk.
Of course, meyerweb does have some fairly good points, even if they're kind of roughly presented.
I don't have kids of my own (thank god) and, as such, I'd pretty much go with the "kids should be kept on a leash in the backyard" option (because your kids are incredibly annoying to me, a non-kid-having grumpy asshole). On the other hand, having been a kid once, I remember becoming aware of all the fun activities available in the big outside world, and I remember how much resentment this kind of treatment engenders.
Here we go:
Kids will do what they want to do. If you tell them not to do that thing, they simply won't tell you (the parent) about it when they do it.
So! Parents should be paying attention to the things their kids are interested in doing. I don't really care whether or not it's appropriate for a 13 year-old to have a cellphone (or whatever else 13 year-olds might find interesting -- I shudder to think). If the child is interested, you (the parent) had better be paying attention, be involved in discussing that topic with the kid, and you're most likely going to be better off by providing an environment for exploration of the topic that you are aware of rather than trying (and failing) to keep the kid from engaging that activity.
As well, it's not all that big a deal -- if the kid is irresponsible with the phone, cancel the experiment until they're older (and, in theory, more responsible). We're just talking about a phone, here. It's not like you'd wind up having to raise the baby, y'know.
P.S. I'm not saying this is an easy thing to do. In fact, I think this whole parenting thing is probably very, very hard. But then, this is exactly why I don't have one of those little critters. Or pets. Or plants. I mean, I can turn this computer off, y'know?