dick-richardson
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Registered: Oct 2000
Location: Aberdeen, SD
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To address my absence, my son has been having some trouble at preschool. My wife and I get a message that he got exuberant on the steps and pulled another child down the steps with him. The parents of this other child happen to be local big-wigs and the child cracks his tooth. Of course, legal action is threatened if my son isn't immediately removed from the institution. The preschool says they wish to keep my son enrolled, but he'll need counseling. Just so happens, they know just the person (who happens to have a financial agreement with the preschool - terms unknown). So he gets put on a program where if he gets three frowny faces during the day, he doesn't get to play on the computer when he gets home. For some reason (my own musings to follow), the reported behaviors escalate. So, they inform me that he has two weeks to fix his behavior problems or he's pulled. So my wife and I schedule a meeting the following day, informing them that a shrink may be just the thing, but since we have no troubles with him, nor his behaviors evident with my younger sisters or any other child his age, they will be ones talking to a counselor of our choosing. The counselor discovers that there seems to be little positive reinforcement and suggests that 1.) he gets put on a reward system, and 2.) change the policy for poor behavior such that 3 times and he gets sent home. Since then, there have been no positive reinforcements implemented and he has yet to finish a day without getting sent home. The notes are being written by people who weren't at the meeting with the counselor (which puts their level of comprehension in serious doubt) and most are within 5-10 minutes. In my mind, any note within 10 minutes of the first is the same incident.
So, now we're at the point where my mother is watching my son more than the preschool, and the preschool is still getting my $400/mnth. My son is also constantly asking my mother if he is a good boy, and (after being incredibly well behaved) why isn't he getting yelled at. Possibly I'm oversensitive (I understand being locked in a closet by a babysitter when one is a child will do that - I still hate 101 Dalmations, but that's a different story), but I'm labelling the relationship as abusive.
To be fair, my son at 4 is larger and weighs more than my 6 y/o sister. He can also count to 20, speak 4 syllable words, recite his alphabet, and remember the trip we took to see my father last year (first thing he says when we get there this summer? I wanna ride the tractor with grandpa - he has no exposure to tractors at home and probably limited exposure at the preschool). Unfortunately, he can cuss like a sailor (proper syntax, the whole works, much to my chagrin) and recite most of the Lord's prayer. He's gonna make a great Catholic. 
Slap that on top of being employed at a business where I'm having to wait up to a week to get my paychecks because the money isn't there, while at the same time trying to attend school and stay married...
It's good to be back.
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